I found out (24M) that my whole group of friends are counting on my disappointment when it comes to my current gf (24F). I am really hurt by them, what should I do now?
I have a group of friends that I met at university. They are my only true group of friends because I am always on the quiet side.
During my last year at university, they all seemed to be pushing me to approach a girl in the group. I was told that he was interested and that I had a "good chance" with him.
They were pushing it so hard, and I was so tired of being a shy, insecure loser that I really forced myself to do it and said whatever happens, happens.
I went on a few dates with the girl, and we became lovers, and now we've been together for two years.
I don't want to go into details, but in short, I got all the old chat logs that had to do with me and this kid. Messages in group chats I'm not a part of, PMs, etc.
I saw that they thought I couldn't do it, I saw all the messages calling me a nerd and a loser, saying things like "he's not really interested in her but he has to try" and "it's embarrassing we have to tell him the truth " and "Did you read what he texted her LOL".
The most hurtful part was reading the messages from my gf. He is part of group chats and stuff making fun of me, saying how hopeless I am, how he is not really interested in me, he also forwards all our chats to our "friends".
Nabasa ko kung paano ang bawat “date” na pinuntahan namin ay mula sa awa at sinasabi kung gaano ako ka-cringe at ang paraan ko ng pag-flirt ay isang “ick”.
I really can't believe it. I cried while reading this, I thought of these people as my friends.
I know I need to move on from this group of friends, but how? I said, they are my only true friends. I have no idea where or how to start again. I haven't even found a way to break up with my gf, I know I have to but I can't.
Can anyone give advice? I feel really lost right now. I have no family, I only have an aunt who took care of me, but we are not close. The situation makes me worse the movie with Jim Carrey, the Truman Show. I feel like the signs are there but now that I know the truth, I have no idea what to do next. Have any ideas? Thank you
